happy chances


“We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love.
It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person.”
– William Somerset Maugham

Although I’m sure William Somerset Maugham was a talented writer, I have to disagree with this sentiment.  I don’t really believe in “happy chances.”  I think that loving a person over time and throughout change takes sacrifice, commitment, forgiveness, and unconditional love – not chance.

Tanner and I have been so blessed to have parents who have modeled this selflessness in their marriages.  Throughout my lifetime I have witnessed my parents change and transition through various seasons of life, and yet they have always continued to serve each other and appreciate changes in one another even during obstacles in life.  It is such a beautiful portrayal of Christ’s love for the church.

“Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God… Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” -Ephesians 5: 1-2, 25 

I am so grateful to my parents and for Tanner’s parents, and for the example they have set not only for me, but also for everyone who knows them.  The love they each share in their marriages, along with their undiminishing commitment, is something I aspire to and admire.

Because of this, I am proud to share our anniversary week with them, and I look forward to many joyous years of celebrating our three marriages together!  Happy Anniversary!