non-goals

2015-non-goals I used to dislike New Year’s resolutions.  I grew tired of seeing list after list of goals that people never accomplished, or didn’t even seem to care about two weeks later.  While I am still wary of making unattainable goals, I now appreciate people who make bold resolutions.  I admire their desire to improve and their courage to share their dreams even if they might fail.

However, I think that it is just as valuable to reflect on past growth as it is to create new goals.  I was inspired by Erin from Design for Mankind to create my list of non-goals – a list of ways that I am learning to accept myself and areas that I have already grown in.  (You can read Erin’s list here.)

1. I have learned not to take myself so seriously.

I have been a perfectionist for as long as I can remember.  When I colored as a little girl, I was so upset with myself if I colored out of the lines.  I would even ask my parents to finish coloring it for me, so that it would look better.  Fortunately, they always made me finish, and encouraged me along the way.

Now, when creating and teaching 20 lesson plans a week, it is impossible for each one to be perfect.  Rather than become frustrated with small setbacks, I have learned to laugh at my mistakes and even enjoy my imperfections at times.

2. I have simplified my life.

I have embraced minimalism in many areas of my life, and I am enjoying the benefits.  Rather than fill my house and my schedule with clutter, I have learned to let things go and enjoy the small things in life.

3. I have valued the relationships that make my life meaningful.

Tanner and I are so grateful to live close to all of our parents, and we have taken advantage of it.  I look forward to spending time with them each week, and I cherish all of the memories we are creating together.   I have kept in touch with out-of-town family, reconnected with old friends, and started new friendships.  I have also had the opportunity to work on a family history project with my dad that has not only taught me about my heritage, but has also inspired me to live a life that my family will be proud of for years to come.

4. I have explored and refined my beliefs.

There comes a time in life when you have to question the things you have been taught and the culture in which you have been raised.  Even though this process is a lifelong journey in some ways, I am excited about the new perspectives I have been exposed to and the things I have learned about God and His love this year.

In what areas of your life are you satisfied?  What accomplishments are you proud of?  What are your non-goals?